Diane Hochman

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Please Kick My Ass He Said…

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I was on skype this morning with a person who had ordered up
a few consulting appointments with me.
We started picking through his marketing and then he confessed that what he really wanted was to get his “ass kicked” and on that note I went on a rant about how until you can learn to kick YOUR OWN ass you are just gonna struggle and more importantly let people pick your pocket all day long.
Look…I am a consultant.
I ask you questions…
I look at your work.
I re arrange your marketing…
I show you how to approach from a different angle and I give you methods that can make you a lot of money.
And I do mean A LOT.
But if you are still in the place where you are looking for someone else to motivate you…
To push you…
To call you out….
Then you gots trouble cause until you become SELF DRIVEN you are forever at the MERCY of those that say they will “coach” you to success.
The TRUTH…
People who successfully use consultants and coaches are already on the path and they are just using the skills of another mind to make them go FASTER.
I have done this many times…
Hired a person to BRAIN DUMP into me or to act as a mirror to help me reflect on my actions and behaviors.
VERY EFFECTIVE.
But if I just want to hire someone to “kick my ass” my words reveal that I am looking for external motivation and this is where you give someone permission to charge you for your mediocrity.
And in fact it is so easy for someone to crank you for thousands of dollars when you are of that mindset.
And most people who are sitting in this quagmire happily pull out their credit card because they think someone this “ass kicking” is gonna make them CHANGE.
But it won’t.
More often that not it just winds you up for a little bit until their effect on you wears off and you find yourself needing something stronger to get by.
Just like drugs…
You gotta up your poison to continue to feel good but in the end…no pharmaceutical is gonna cure the deep down pain you are running away from.
The answer lies INSIDE.
And an “ass kicking” is just your drug of the day…
Getting you by.
And in the end…do you really want to spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars trying to get SOMEONE ELSE to motivate you?
Petting you, pushing you, yelling at you so you can prove the story in your mind about yourself to be true?
Or do you want to learn to kick YOUR OWN ass and then find the best of the best to consult you and show you ways to expand your business rapidly?
When someone tells me they want an “ass kicking” I immediately YAWN.
I know they are not in a place to receive what i can give them so we pass the hour on a few things and then I move along.
No sense in charging a guy for that which I know will not yield.
He can join one of my low cost groups and beat himself all day long on the cheap!
Why pay big bucks for that which I refuse to deliver.
So NO…
I will not “kick your ass.”
And it is my prayer that if you are hoping for me to do so that you examine that.
You MUST find your motivation BEFORE I or anyone can give you the MOVES.
But I promise you…
Once you find your motivation and you find someone experienced to give you the MOVES…
You are HOME FREE!
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  2. That is so true – that is what most people are looking for when they hire a coach or join a program.
    I did find a good number of people who were looking not only for someone to “kick their ass” but wanted to also learn how to hold themselves accountable to their commitments so they could progress after the program. Many of them did have success because we were able to develop the habit of personal accountability via the temporary “ass kick” mode.
    You did say in one of the classes “find out what your peep’s really want and give it to them” Maybe I need to start an “Ass Kicking Coaching Program” 😉

  4. This post reminded me of that youtube video of a little girl who is talking to her Mom about a monster coming out of the TV and kicking her ass…. anyhow, I kept hearing you say those words in the little girl’s voice. Anyhow, I digress. I needed to hear this. Thank you.

  5. “No sense in charging a guy for that which I know will not yield.”
    Such a breath of fresh air you are Señora Diana. Many people in your position would indeed keep accepting that credit card and kick that a** as the client requested.
    But alas, in your infinite wisdom you do not because you know in the long and short run it will not be beneficial for either of you.
    Great post, made me smile. #selfmotivation

  6. Wow! Diane you just verbalized what I’ve been thinking! Almost 15 months ago, I decided to “kick my ass”, dig deep and get fit and healthy. And guess what, I did! I’ve struggled my whole life with being overweight and finally enough was enough. And boy, does it feel good!
    Now to apply that same ass kickin’ to my business. I’ve been in Network marketing for a while and have had marginal success, but I realized that I’ve been looking for some outside motivator to make me do the hard stuff and that isn’t going to happen and it shouldn’t. I need to dig deep, find the motivation and desire and kick my own ass to do what needs to be done!
    Thank you for sharing this! It’s just what I needed to hear today!

  7. Clearer…..Water!
    That’s why I think, that when we say Ready, Fire, Aim, we must have clear in our minds, that the READY part is the MINDSET PART! Because if we don’t have it, we will not be strong enough to AIM, that is to accept failure, learn from it, learn the skills, make the necessary corrections or changes in what we have been doing and Persist

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