Here’s some bootleg footage from an impromptu talk I gave at the last Wisdom School with Joe Schroeder.
Thought you might like to se me going and blowing!
The topic here was You have to give more GIVE VALUE to get more GET VALUE
The discussion was about what really is GIVING VALUE
And the mistakes people make when they are trying to get this concept down.
Diane,
This was totally helpful and I like how you broke this concept down. I think at some point we all fall into this realm of giving but the way you explained it I am sure everyone who watches this will benefit. I know I just did.
Thanks my friend!!
Shawn
This is a message that must be heard.
You explain this very well. We can’t babysit people and walk them through everything because there just isn’t enough time and there is only so much one person can do. People have to learn things for themselves and there is a ton of information on the net on how to do everything.
The more one does for themselves the more confident and independent they become and that moves them into a better leader.
Very well put! There is a limit to what you can do for others. At some point, they have to learn to fly by themselves. That doesn’t mean we won’t be there to help them when it is needed, but the best way for people to learn is by doing. It boosts self-esteem and gives them a sense of accomplishment … and that, is giving value.
Great advice Diane,
Wendy
Thankfully I was at that Kid Rock concert at MSG with you.
Life changing.
Like your teaching.
Yup, you can point in the right direction but it is impossible to carry a crowd on our backs.
Well put.
EB
This is absolutely HUGE!!
It’s one of the toughest lessons to learn…
and most of us learn it the hard way.
Thanks for posting this video, Diane.
I did this many, many times before I realised it was stupid. The moment I got that, things improved.
The only thing I’d add is that some people are slower learners. There were a few people in the past I’d indulge to a certain extent because I could see they needed a bit more time/help to fly. I didn’t regret that time. Once they started to fly, they really flew.
You get a gut feeling for who is leaning on you for just a bit more support before they jump, and who is just leaning on you so they can blame you if it goes wrong.
It’s a valuable lesson – and really hard to learn. Thanks for sharing it, Diane.
Rebecca x
This was a huge thing to understand Diane, you explained and gave some examples that will hopefully teach others what the difference is and how to give the Give value without enabling them to learn and do on their own. Disciplines of Doership is the biggest Give value that we have ever come across in one package. People on our Christmas list will be receiving this book. Thank you for your valuable input on the differences and you always give more than you get, thank you thank you thank you.
I so appreciate this video Diane. I know I have probably don’t this in the past. Thanks for this wonderful information.
Diane,
All I can say is WOW! The was so on point and we do not realize that is what we are doing. You shed some light into why I get so burned out with my team,so now I know what not to do.
Thanks, you rock!!!
Lori
The analogy about the waitress was really good. I know myself being a mama I get caught up in giving, giving, giving.
Thanks for explaining this Diane! It’s amazing how many people make this mistake of babysitting and diapering their prospects. It’s a concept people need to learn!
Thanks for the insights. You really can’t focus all your attention on one person or group. Then the rest of the whole will be neglected. My experience in the medical field has taught me that you can’t spend too much time on 1 patient. Not only is that considered neglectful (not providing for all your your other patients) but it is unethical as well.
Such clarity, thanks.
Glad I watched the video but certainly had moments where I squirmed a bit remembering the folks I tried to drag over the line. No one is surprised they never did anything to build a business of their own.
Think I will keep this around to review periodically as a cautionary note as I build again under the tender guidance of Home & Small Business.
Thank you.
Thanks for posting this video, Diane.You explain this very well.
You can point them in the right direction but it is impossible to carry the as the weight will bring you down.It’s one of the toughest lessons to learn and most of us learn it the hard way.
Thanks for the wisdom!!!
Rankin
Hey Rankin…
You know I went back and forth on publishing this because it’s not really good quality footage but I felt the message stood on it’s own.
Glad it was helpful.
After I had been in business a while, I could tell who was genuine and who was a time waster just from the email questions. It was the same question types that didn’t buy and others who did. Strange it was almost like the SAME PERSON or Personality type.
nice lively presentation Diane. The last time I gave a talk in front of 80 odd folks it started off quiet but after a few mistakes and wise cracks they were all laughing it helps to get the message home 😉
I can only imagine the jokes that would have flown if you had been there David 🙂
Hey Diane,
This is awesome. I took a bunch of notes that day and this was one of the things that I highlighted.
This was one of the challenges I had because I thought I owed it back to people since someone helped me. The problem was I didn’t differentiate between someone who wanted to help themselves versus someone who wanted me to do it all for them.
Great info and I am using this with my team.
Rock on woman!
Paul