Today as I perused through my email I found my Magnetic Sponsoring Newsletter
and in it there was something that I really NEEDED to read…
As a leader in the home business industry I have often over the years put as a lot
of weight on my shoulders that in reality I never should have.
I guess it’s just human nature to want to “SAVE THE WORLD” especially if you are female.
But in the end I can save NO ONE.
All I can do is lend my experience to people who want to SAVE THEMSELVES.
Read this…
Maybe even print it out and hang it over your desk.
It will help you.
It has surely helped me.
Much thanks to Courtney Houde…
Editor of the Magnetic Sponsoring Newsletter
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We all know that Network Marketing is a business model built on leadership and personal responsibility…
But sometimes we find ourselves needlessly taking on the responsibilities of others: We take responsibility for how people in our lives behave or feel. How our teammates behave or feel. Or how our loved ones behave and feel…
We take responsibility for the work that others are doing or not doing.
We take responsibility for their success…
We take responsibility for their failure…
We take responsibility for the sun rising in the morning…
We take responsibility for the moon rising at night…
But where does it end?
At some point in time, we have to draw the line…
We have to realize that we are not responsible for the actions of others.
That we can’t “control” them or make decisions for them.
That we can be there in their times of need…
But that we shouldn’t stress ourselves out or get all “bent out of shape” if they don’t want to take responsibility for their success…
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Are You Trying To Save The World
THAT’S WORD!!!
Comments
12 responses to “Are You Trying To Save The World”
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Thanks for sharing, Diane. I find myself having placed the world on my shoulders and then trying to figure out how to pick it off a piece at a time.
I am passionate about helping people, but do need to learn to draw the line. I know that when I go to bed at night I have done my part and now I’m learning that I need to not take on so much!
Great Post!
TAM-
Hey Tam…
Good to see you here 🙂
Yup…drawing the line was challenging for me back a few years ago.
But if you are moving hard enough in your business you get to a point where you have a choice…
Draw the line or stop growing because you are losing time trying to help those
that will not help themselves.
When that day came…
I chose drawing the line.
It was hard but I am SO GLAD I did
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Good article Diane,
I believe one of the hardest things to learn is we can never change, control, or take charge of another person.
When we learn to let people become responsible for themselves, we grow in responsibility ourselves and that is freedom for self.
As a coach my biggest challenge was to “not fix it” for the client. For if I do I defeat my purpose as a coach.-
So true…
Thanks for stopping by to comment Patty 🙂
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Tell me about it!!
When I read that this morning I was blown away since I wasn’t aware so many people had the same feeling. AT your event this past weekend, you let us share our stories.
And I touched upon how much of burden that had been for such a long time. And it wasn’t until I released it that I found true freedom. It’s okay to help, but never lose yourself in the process.
Spread the Good NEWS!!
Thanks Diane : )-
You know Lenai..
It gets easier and easier as you go along
and yet…
Just when you think you are immune to feeling responsible for someone…
BOOM…
There is one guy who flips you on your side…
Happened to me this week as you know.
Made me question myself and and wonder if I had not served enough….
And in the end….I know in my heart that I DID.
I am NOT responsible for anyone.
I can only lead.
This is a burden we can CHOOSE not to carry…
And it is people like YOU that help me keep going.
Much love,
D
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Hi Diane,
Awesome post, and one that hits me at the right time.
Where does it end? The whole responsibility thing? With us. I used to beat myself up when I didn’t influence others as I intended. Now I know, I can do the best that I possibly can, and have to detach myself was outcomes. Do, learn and move forward.
Thanks for sharing!
RB-
It’s heavy stuff…isn’t it?
Thanks for the comment Ryan.
Good to see you stop by.
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Years ago, I was told “Some people won’t
get better, some will get better because
of what you say…and some will get better
IN SPITE OF what you say.”
My challenge even now, from time to time,
is to remind myself that in all areas of
life, it’s really up to them, not me.
All I can do is share what I know and let
go of THEIR results.
Great post…and a timely reminder!
Thanks, Diane. -
I honestly believe that if we Don’t draw the line, we’ll go down with the others we’re trying to save.
Because we’ll be so busy putting effort into Their lives, that we deplete the resources we need for our own.
And as my mother would say ~ You can’t pour from an empty pitcher.
Learning to share wisdom, inspire, teach, and yet not hold oneself responsible for the actions of others, is a huge step on the road to true leadership.
I shall take heed of this advice and learn the lesson sooner rather than later.
Thanks for the wisdom, Diane.
Bliss-ings,
the goddess known as Jacqui -
Great post Diane,
Thanks for sharing these thoughts.
I did that too much in the past and
I intend to not repeat this pattern.
Like you said, at the end of the day,
we are not responsible for people’s actions..
We can only invite, attract and inspire them…
What they decide to do with what they receive
is totally up to them 😉
Nathalie -
Hi Diane,
I have to say I’m flattered.
I’ve been a long time fan of your content and posts on Better Networker and your ABN interview as well.
Plus, a silent blog reader over here… 😉
If only we could help everybody…
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